Soul mates
I was just over visiting MySpace, and saw an ad with a drawing of a fortune teller and a line that went something like, “Want to know the name of your soul mate?”
And it just so happens that’s one of the themes of the new book I turned in last month.
And so I’m curious: Do any/all of you believe in soul mates?
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February 20th, 2008 at 6:31 pm
Argh! I just lost my comment. Let me start again…
I believe in soul mates. That being said, I don’t believe there is one soul mate for one person and I don’t think that a soul mate must be someone you’re romantically involved with. I have 4-5 people in my life I consider soul mates, only one of them my SO. The others are all (female) friends and/or relatives.
What makes a soul mate, though? I think it’s someone who just gets you from the very beginning. That’s rare, especially if you’re eccentric.
In my experience, a soul mate is someone who can keep up with your thoughts, finds the same (sometimes twisted) things funny, and someone who finds the same things interesting.
February 20th, 2008 at 6:34 pm
Kelly, I LOVE that.
February 20th, 2008 at 6:41 pm
I like to believe in more than one soul mate. I’m approaching 30 with not even a boyfriend in sight. Finding that “one” person among billions? Seems so hard. And I think there are different kinds of soul mates.
February 20th, 2008 at 6:44 pm
Katie Sis, I think you and Kelly are right about that. I feel I have soul mates in some of my closest friends, in family members, etc.
And don’t worry about finding that one person among billions. All it takes is that one person who gets you, like Kelly said. And there are bound to be many–you just have to wait for the right one to click.
Says the person who freely gives romantic advice. I’ll just go sit over here now and mind my own business.
February 20th, 2008 at 6:45 pm
Katie: I think it IS hard. Also, I’m not sure it’s necessary to date a soul mate at all. I was lucky that, in the end, it worked out that way. (I found him in another country.)
February 20th, 2008 at 7:11 pm
I’d call them Soul Friends - because ‘mate’ kind of goes along with mating, which isn’t necessarily what joins one at the soul.
***Mating is good. In fact a Tampa Pastor is highly recommending it. http://www.floridatoday.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20080218/BREAKINGNEWS/80218046/1086***
Katie sis - When you get to 30, turn left, I put something there for you. I think you’ll like - though your first reaction will be suspicion.
February 20th, 2008 at 7:44 pm
Kelly, your story sounds similar to mine. I do have interest in a guy from another country. He also has some interest in me. He wants to spend a day with me when I travel over there in June for a mission trip! That’s never happened to me before.
Patrick I’ll be 30 on the 1st of December. Leave your gift on the doorstep of a certain house in Macon….
February 20th, 2008 at 7:45 pm
Well, I don’t think I have found my soulmate but I’m pretty sure there is more than one soulmate that is right for you. I mean the world/ universe is very large.. Oh yeah I just finished reading Evolution, Me and other freaks of nature. I must say that is one of the best books I have read so far. You should make a sequel.
February 20th, 2008 at 7:54 pm
Nela, thank you! That’s so nice to hear!
Katie Sis, are you saying your love connection might be a Scotsman? Think of the accent! (Although you probably already have. Carry on.)
Speaking of carrying on, how about that article, Patrick? I especially like the engaged guy admitting in print that he hasn’t waited, no matter what his pastor might say about that. But now to go celibate and “learn other things about each other”–that ought to be interesting.
Kelly, I keep forgetting your man has an exotic accent, too. When you first met him, did you like the way he said your name?
February 20th, 2008 at 8:07 pm
Katie sis - life does not begin at birth, so I do not begin counting then. You may be 30 before you know it and my gift for you will be there. You will like it more than you recognize.
February 20th, 2008 at 8:07 pm
Oh yes! ^^ hope to find my edward some day!
February 20th, 2008 at 8:08 pm
Robin, what was he supposed to wait for?
February 20th, 2008 at 8:10 pm
Until they combined their checking accounts, silly.
February 20th, 2008 at 9:10 pm
What Kelly is describing sounds to me like kindred spirits, in the Anne of Green Gables sense.
I do not believe in soul mates. I do believe in kindred spirits.
February 20th, 2008 at 9:58 pm
I’m 29 now. My sister has arrived at the beautiful mark of 30 years before me, as she should. She plays the role of big sister very well.
And Robin, yes, he is Scottish. The weird thing is we haven’t met face-to-face yet…
February 21st, 2008 at 4:56 am
katie sis - ok - totally missing the whole mystical Space Lord like - this is the year you will find you man where you are least expecting thing.
And see, if you were ‘born’ dec1, then you were conceived 40 wks before that or so, and your SOUL entered the situation before that, so when you ‘turn 30′ (which could be anytime between Mar1 and Dec1) like maybe in June -oh never mind. It sort of loses its fun when I try to explain…
Anyway, I’m with Diana - just grab a guy and get out on the dance floor. He may trip, step on your toes, or whatever, but as long as you have fun, those things aren’t so bad.
February 21st, 2008 at 6:48 am
Oh I plan to have fun…
February 21st, 2008 at 7:17 am
Well, if Diana is right and what I am describing is more a “kindred spirit” than a “soul mate,” then I agree with her–there’s no such thing as a soul mate. The situation I described is as good as it gets between people.
And, Robin? I hate to disappoint you, but I was so used to Russian accents by the time I met my husband, I didn’t notice it. I still rarely “notice” Russian or any form of British accent (I lived in Scotland as a child–go Scotland, Katie! I’ll be keeping my fingers crossed for you–so Scottish accents sound normal to me, and I listen to so many accented audio books from the Isles that sometimes I have to think, is this a Brit or an American reading?)
February 21st, 2008 at 8:19 am
I don’t believe in one soul mate in the sense that there’s one guy wandering around somewhere in Boston that you have to go track down. But I believe couples who work at it can become soul mates. I think that term is iffy because to me it sounds like there’s no work involved. Being partners with someone, to me, means always reaching out to them and being “actively” together–emotionally, mentally, physically, etc.
February 21st, 2008 at 8:30 am
So what if I add to the definition that I’m talking about souls who travel together life after life? Do you think there are people in your life you may have known before?
February 21st, 2008 at 9:25 am
I believe that I’ve travelled the same path with my wife over several life times. I do believe in having many soul mates. I’ve seen many a person wearing the same shoes as I do.
February 21st, 2008 at 10:05 am
I hate to say it, Robin, but no. I only know people from this life. And, sadly, I expect it to stay that way–at least for me
February 21st, 2008 at 12:30 pm
I am not certain that I believe in soul mates. Or maybe that you always find yours. I love my husband dearly but does he meet all my needs-no. I don’t really expect him to do that. Would I have wanted to go through this life without him-NO!
I do like reading about soul mates but how likely is that going to happen in this life? That’s why we have HEA.
February 21st, 2008 at 2:23 pm
I believe in soul mates. I don’t know why, because I haven’t even been on a date yet. I want a soul mate, so that’s why I believe. Not a very good reason, but, hey, why not?
February 25th, 2008 at 5:30 pm
I think I tend to agree with Kelly about the whole issue…I heard something about soul mates on NPR a couple of weeks ago and it crossed my mind that life would be impossibly difficult and sad if everyone believed that there was only one true soul mate for them out there and that life was about that needle-in-the-haystack search. Moreover, it’s debatable whether that person could ever really be the perfect soul mate anyway…I much prefer the idea of multiple soul mates, kindred spirits, what-have-you.